Coming Out of the Fertility Closet
We were already big fans of funny guy Jimmy Fallon. And our love for the talk-show host only grew when we saw how enamored he is with newborn daughter Winnie Rose. But when he spoke out about the fact that he and his wife Nancy worked with a surrogate in order to build their family? Talk about a whole new respect.
It’s not that Fallon set out to be a spokesperson for infertility. In fact, it was a relatively casual mention during an interview with Today when he explained, “My wife and I had been trying for a while to have a baby. We tried a bunch of things. So we had a surrogate.” And with this admission, the Fallons joined the small but growing community of celebrities who have publicly discussed their fertility struggles and eventual success. Considering 1 in 6 U.S. couples have difficulty conceiving, they certainly aren’t alone. But it’s the speculation and judgement that can still accompany fertility treatment that keeps many people quiet – celebrity or not.
Sarah Richards, discussing Fallon’s announcement with Time, summed it up wonderfully: “We should applaud Fallon – along with his wife and other high-profile women willing to share their stories – for going public with facts so many people would prefer to keep hidden.”
While they certainly don't owe an explanation for their choices, their willingness to "come out of the fertility closet" and discuss deeply personal decisions opens the door to a national conversation. Our hope is that Fallon, along with other public figures like Giuliana and Bill Rancic, Sarah Jessica Parker, and Nicole Kidman, lend a familiar face to infertility. Opening up about what is often a very private struggle is not easy, but their happy endings lend hope.