Although the public’s understanding of gestational surrogacy has come a long way in recent years, some basic misunderstandings seem to still be commonplace. These misconceptions occasionally result in surrogates receiving some semi-awkward questions. The false notion that gestational surrogates (Gestational Surrogates, Gestational Carriers, or GCs) contribute genetically to their surrobabies is one of the more common errors which fuel these interesting interactions.
The truth is that surrogates provide a healthy, nurturing environment but not genetics.
ConceiveAbilities surrogate, Kelly recently shared a story of a conversation she had with an individual who seems to not yet have "gotten the memo" regarding modern surrogacy. Below is the story she shared.
“A few weeks after delivering my surrobaby, I was at the grocery store and got into my regular checker’s lane.
She said, "Aren't you the one who was carrying the baby for someone else?"
I thought, "How sweet of her to remember!"
And then she asked, "Did the baby get your curly hair?”
This was a rather pleasant interaction, as far as confused surrogacy questions go but it is a reminder that the public is still a little unclear on the difference between traditional and gestational surrogacy (or modern surrogacy). Learn more about the differences between the two concepts here.
As a follow up to this story, we would like to add that Kelly’s surrobaby is not showing any signs of having curly hair (which makes sense, as Kelly did not contribute her genetics) and the baby's parents have straight hair. But do not worry, Kelly has four beautiful children of her own, ALL of whom are absolutely delightful people and some of whom sport a cool waviness in their hair, no doubt a genetic gift from their mom.
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