During the Thanksgiving season, we asked our staff, our surrogates, and our intended parents to share why they were thankful for surrogacy. So far, the response has been overwhelming. We thank all the surrogates, family, and friends for their honesty and kindness in sharing their story. You can find these stories on ConceiveAbilities’ Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram pages. If you have a story you’d like to share, please let us know, as we want to continue to spread the joy that surrogacy brings to so many families this holiday season.
Some stories were too long and deep to share on social networks, so we’ve chosen to showcase them in this post. Here is one of our favorites:
“I have friends and family with some amazing gifts. There are the crafters who could shame anyone on Pinterest, the bakers who could take on Martha Stewart herself, the artists, musicians, I could go on and on. And these are all people I know, who I am in constant amazement at their talent! Then I look at myself. I’ll admit, I think I am a pretty darn good mom and wife, but that’s my claim to fame. I don’t have any crazy gifts that I could go out and win a competition with…I didn’t think. Then one day I was talking to my cousin, who is gay, about the difficulties of adoption for a gay couple. He would be an amazing father, and was willing to jump through all kinds of hoops to make that happen. That got the engines in my brain turning, and I started thinking of friends I knew who couldn’t have children. I thought about how many people I knew personally who were going through outside steps to become parents. Something that I definitely never took for granted, but also something that I just always assumed/knew would happen. Then it hit me. The ability to be pregnant, and to have children, is the most amazing gift in the world. I had a gift that so many wonderful people didn’t have. And, I also had the opportunity to share that gift with someone who didn’t have it.
I decided to become a surrogate. That is a decision that I have never once second-guessed or regretted. There are so many times during the day that I find myself staring at my kids thinking about how lucky I am. (There are also times I give them “the stare” too!) But no matter what they get into during the day, when I kiss them goodnight and watch them sleeping I am completely overfilled with love and joy. The fact that I have helped someone else have that feeling is indescribable.
So…there are many things about this process that I am so thankful for.
First, I am thankful for my husband. His heart for helping people is beautiful. He was totally on-board and supported me every single step of the way. There is no way I could have done this without him.
I am thankful for ConceiveAbilities. For the staff, this is not their job, this is what they were meant to do. They are so caring and thoughtful. They made every step of the process painless (besides the birth part J).
The couple we were able to help are two of the best people I have been privileged enough to know. They are no longer the “baby’s parents,” but instead, just our friends. My husband and I are so thankful for the lifelong friends we have been able to make.
Lastly, I am thankful that I discovered the gift I had, and how I could use it to help someone else obtain the greatest gift in the world – their child. “ - Casey, ConceiveAbilities Surrogate
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