Surrogate mother FAQ

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Questions? We’re listening. Here are some answers.

Because each surrogacy arrangement is unique, there may be some variances and this will be discussed in much greater detail as the process moves forward. If you have any further questions or would like more information about becoming a surrogate, please contact us.

What if I don't become pregnant?

Typically, intended parents ask for a commitment from you for up to 3 embryo transfers. Because we work with great physicians, most surrogates do eventually become pregnant.

How much do surrogate mothers gets paid?

On average, the total surrogate compensation ranges between $43,000 and $53,000. For more information see the surrogate compensation page.

Who will cover the costs associated with my surrogate pregnancy?

All expenses are paid by insurance or the intended parents. While there may be a few out of pocket expenses throughout this process, you will be reimbursed in a timely manner.

Why would I not be accepted into the surrogacy program?

It is most often related to the state you reside in and the legalities regarding surrogacy there. Aside from that, the OB/delivery records from a surrogate's previous pregnancy must be free of any serious medical and psychological complications. A history of healthy, full-term deliveries is an absolute requirement for acceptance into the program. You can see our entire list of surrogate mother requirements here.

Why does receiving government assistance disqualify me?

A surrogate must demonstrate financial stability in order to qualify for the surrogate program. It is also an attribute that most intended parents look for and can indicate that an applicant is pursuing surrogacy because of their desire to help others. More importantly, the compensation earned by a surrogate could cause her to become ineligible for most government assistance programs.

Can I be a surrogate with your program if I haven't had a child?

No. It is difficult to consent to something for someone else that one hasn’t done already for themselves. You must have given birth to and be raising at least one child. Part of our screening process involves the review of your prenatal and delivery records to ensure you have a history of healthy, uncomplicated pregnancies and deliveries.

What does "uncomplicated" or "healthy" pregnancy mean?

An uncomplicated or healthy pregnancy is one that results in a full term birth without complications like preeclampsia, gestational diabetes, bed rest, blood transfusion or other issues that required significant intervention.

How long does the surrogacy process take?

You can anticipate the surrogate mother process taking between 15 to 18 months. Because there are many variables in a gestational surrogacy arrangement, it is difficult to specify.

Will I need to travel long distances?

Depending on your location, long distance travel with a companion could be required. If you are required to travel, you can expect 2-3 trips lasting approximately 1-4 days in total. Additionally, it's important to understand local travel to various appointments is a requirement.

Will it be my egg?

No. You will not be genetically related to the child in any way.

How many embryos will be transferred?

While most of the physicians we work with are conservative, this decision is made mutually between you and the intended parents. Usually no more than 1 to 2 embryos are transferred.

What should I expect in my relationship with the intended parents?

This is where our years of experience and Matching Matters® methodology is most meaningful in cultivating the right relationship between all parties. We work to establish mutual expectations for the kind of relationship the surrogate and intended parents envision and it will vary from one match to the next. Some relationships can be business-like compared to matches where the participants communicate more often. The kind of relationship you are interested in will be explored before and during a potential match with intended parents.

After the baby is born, what am I responsible for?

Nothing except taking care of yourself! Legal documents are filed with the local county court system that grant the intended parents parental rights over their child or children.

If I am currently breastfeeding can I apply to be a surrogate?

Yes, you can apply. If your application is approved, we will begin the screening process. However, we will not be able to match you with a set of intended parents until you have completely weaned and have had at least one menstrual cycle.

Can I use my own OB/GYN?

Under most circumstances, yes. If a higher level of care is needed, you will be referred for care from other healthcare providers.

Can I apply to be a surrogate if I have an IUD in place for my birth control?

Yes, however you will need to get the IUD removed after your application has been accepted and you have passed our screening process. Please complete an application so we can determine your eligibility. Because your IUD removal and replacement costs are your own financial responsibility, the timing of its removal is important. After the IUD is removed, you will need to have at least one menstrual cycle before we can start looking for a match for you.

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