As a surrogate in the making, a lot of responsibility rests on your shoulders. You aren’t just carrying a baby, you’re carrying a baby for someone else. From now until delivery, you have to consider each decision you make as one that might impact the life of another. While the path may be paved with unique obstacles and challenges, the reward of starting a family makes it all worthwhile. The success of your surrogacy depends on the choices you make.
Below, we’ve outlined some steps you can take to make sure your surrogate pregnancy is a successful one.
Our blog is consistently updated with the latest news in the industry, interviews with gestational carriers, and helpful guides for parents and surrogates. You’ll also stay up to date on any company announcements. For surrogates, these resources and guidance can help answer any questions you might have before, during, and after your journey.
Not everyone can be a surrogate. In fact, we only pick the best, healthiest, and most enthusiastic surrogates. You may also want to check the required surrogate medications list to educate yourself on the effects of each drug.
If you’re really curious about what happens during a surrogacy journey, read the stories of some real-life surrogates. We recently interviewed Leslie Mattern, a surrogate and writer for my pea, their pod, a blog about a surrogate’s journey. We also have a guest blog from Charee, another ConceiveAbilities surrogate, as she goes through each day of the process.
Educating yourself by Googling “how to become a surrogate” isn’t enough. If you really want to understand the surrogacy process, you need to surround yourself with a variety of resources available online. Path2Parenthood is a resource for parenthood of all kinds. ASRM, or the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, provides facts and news on all things reproduction. ART Risk Solutions is a great place to start for any insurance questions related to assisted reproduction. The more you know about the decision you make, the less anxious and uncertain you’ll feel.
You should never make any important medical decision without first consulting your doctor. Some of the medication you take may have some serious side effects, so a quick check-up is mandatory. We’ll also need your OB’s approval.
Even though surrogacy is your choice, having the support of your friends and family is extremely important. Understand that to many people, surrogacy is still an unfamiliar practice, so be patient. The responsibility to inform and educate may rest on you. Pick up a copy of Dianne Whitfield’s Surrogacy: An Essential Guide to the Surrogacy Process, Surrogacy Costs, and Finding a Surrogate Mother for an exhaustive look into the surrogacy journey. For explaining surrogacy to your children, The Kangaroo Pouch (also by Whitfield) is a fantastic book.
A surrogacy pregnancy is like any other traditional pregnancy: it requires you to look after your body. This is a topic we’ve covered before, so we encourage you to read some of the previous pieces we’ve written, such as Staying in Shape During Pregnancy, Healthy Lifestyle Diet Suggestions For Surrogate Mothers, and Staying Safe With Seafood While Pregnant.
Finally, as a surrogate mother, you have the responsibility to create a relaxed and stress-free environment for the child you are carrying. In fact, research shows that stress affects the child’s brain development later on, so try to eliminate it as much as possible. Depending on where you live and work, you may be entitled to 12 weeks maternity leave under federal law. Check with your human resources department to see if you are eligible.
Surrogacy can be a beautiful journey. For many first-time surrogates, the uncertainty of the process is a usual source of concern. ConceiveAbilities is here to ensure you are fully informed before your registration. To find out more, explore the ConceiveAbilities website today. To contact us, fill out this brief contact form.
All Things Conceivable is a blog dedicated to sharing the knowledge and expert opinions of the dedicated team at ConceiveAbilities, a Chicago-based egg donation and surrogacy agency.