Surrogacy is a serious responsibility. By agreeing to become a surrogate mother, you are offering to give your time, your energy, and your own body. The decision to help someone less fortunate than yourself begin a family attests to your personal compassion, to your sense of dignity, and to your deep and abiding generosity.
While the journey may be difficult at first, being a surrogate mother has its rewards. Of course, there is the financial compensation, which averages out to approximately the average annual income for a household in the United States (and experience does earn a surrogate mother high financial compensation). Many past surrogates, however, have found that the greatest reward they experience is the sense of pride – bordering on awe – at the service which they have been able to provide. Through surrogacy, you are allowing another young, hopeful family to experience the miracle of life. There are few experiences that compare to being a surrogate mother.
Without a doubt, compassion and commitment – in ample quantities – are two of the most essential qualities to being a surrogate mother. There are a number of other factors, however, which need to be taken into consideration. The health of both mother and child during the progress of the surrogacy is of the highest concern, which means a certain amount of responsibility is being placed upon the surrogate's shoulders. You must maintain a clean and healthy environment – for yourself, and for the sake of the health of the child you are carrying.
Different clinics, in different countries, have slightly varying criteria. With that being said, ConceiveAbilities takes pride in advocating the highest standards of care and consideration at every step of the way. To that end, we partner only with consistent organizations – clinics which are able to meet our exhaustive specifications for quality, reliability, and results. Thanks to our esteemed standards, the following list is an accurate and thorough representation of those factors which are taken into consideration when we review an application from a prospective surrogate mother.
To offer the best chances for the delivery of a healthy baby boy or girl, without any complications, a surrogate must be within her primary childbearing years. During this time, the long-term toll on a woman's body is less severe, and what there is may be recovered from more quickly once her surrogacy is finished. For obvious reasons, a woman must be in a state of good health, free from any of the conditions which have long been documented as having a detrimental effect upon a developing child. She must also be free of avoidable stress factors during an already demanding period of great personal responsibility.
Many women have done extraordinary jobs at bearing and raising children while on government support. Many couples raise beautiful families through hard times. This still a risk factor, however, and it is one that must be taken into account on behalf of the family which is to receive the child you are bearing. Stress, such as that resulting from financial difficulties, can cause complications in a pregnancy, and financial issues tend to give rise to instability and stress elsewhere in one's life. The process of bearing a child to term is stressful as is, under any circumstances, and the surrogacy factor – the knowledge that the child being carried is to be given to someone else to raise, once he or she is born – can be an emotional journey in itself.
Our goal is to reduce other risk factors for stress and complications, at every stage of the process, as much as we can.
A surrogate mother must have experience with bearing children. A prospective surrogate who is currently raising at least one child is desired; with sacrifices already being made for the care of a child on your part, our hope is to minimize the disrupting effect that a pregnancy will have on your life – again, as much as we possibly can.
For obvious reasons, when we examine an application to become a surrogate, we look for individuals with a demonstrable history of responsible and upstanding behavior. We choose prospective surrogate mothers who have already exhibited the emotional qualities that we feel offer the best chances of providing a safe, stable, and healthy environment for themselves (and the child) over the course of the surrogacy. There are support networks in place which can help you with implementing lifestyle changes which will work towards the child’s health, and your own, while accommodating a busy modern lifestyle with lots of other responsibilities. More information on this is available within our section on how to become a surrogate mother.
If you’re ready to take that first exciting leap towards becoming a surrogate mother, we are here to guide you through every step of your journey. This is a deeply profound decision, with huge implications for the happiness of a hopeful family-to-be. The fact that you are even considering this means that you have some of those essential qualities that we are looking for. We would very much love to hear from you!
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