We often hear from both intended parents and surrogates that they would like to offer one another a symbol of hope and gratitude to mark the moments of their shared journey. These mementos may be shared at transfer day, during pregnancy, after the birth - and a special holiday like Mothers Day! They can range from homemade tokens to gift baskets to personalized items tailored specifically to the recipient.
These are some of the creative gifts we have seen shared between intended parents and surrogates over the years. We hope they provide some inspiration for you!
If jewelry holds special meaning, we love the simplicity of this Kate Spade “heart of gold” bangle bracelet. You can also personalize your sentiments with a Giving Key necklace, bracelet, or earrings. For a unique twist, embrace the journey and choose from an array of jewelry with charms specific to fertility (think pineapples) from vendors like Alex and Ani or Luca and Danni.
If sentimentality is more your style, we suggest a combined surrogacy pregnancy journal as a way for you to all contribute to the pregnancy and birth story. A small figurine can serve as a daily reminder of why you’re pursuing this process together, and a keychain etched with the sound waves from the baby’s heartbeat can help minimize the miles between you. There are also unique prints that can be customized to represent where the surrogate lives, where the transfer occurred, and where the IPs live. And of course, some say a book can be the best gift. Take a look through our list of timeless surrogacy books. You just may find the perfect one for your surrogacy journey.
As our #10 idea, we have a catchall category here to memorialize the creativity of incredible homemade gifts we have seen over time, whether thoughtfully customized onesies for the new addition(s), or gorgeously cozy quilts and knitted items. IPs sometimes create a post-transfer or post-birth gift basket for their surrogate full of their favorite snacks, books, and movies. Some surrogates have created a “Welcome to Parenthood” basket with items the IPs and baby won’t be able to live without. And don’t think that you need to spend a great deal to make an impact. We often hear that some of the most meaningful exchanges have been a heartfelt, handwritten letter or a sweet framed photo.
You know your match best, and we encourage you to have fun with your gift-giving. If you need assistance, don’t hesitate to reach out to your ConceiveAbilities team. Happy gifting!
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