Modern-day surrogacy empowers women like you to help those who are yearning to build their family. It is true that not everyone can be a surrogate but more women qualify than you may realize. Are you among those who have what it takes to give the incredible gift of family? Read on to learn the 10 signs which indicate that you may make a wonderful surrogate.
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The goal of surrogacy is to help build a family for someone else. While the experience of being a surrogate is wonderful, the true reward is helping someone achieve what might have otherwise been impossible.
One of the most important qualifications for a surrogate is a healthy lifestyle and medical history. This helps ensure a healthy pregnancy for both you, the surrogate, and child(ren) you carry. We ask that our surrogates must:
We only accept surrogates between the age range of 21 and 39 years old. Surrogates must be at least 21 years old to help ensure the necessary level of emotional maturity. The age cut of is set at 39, as women over the age of 40 do have higher risk pregnancies.
This standard is included in the set by the American Society of Reproductive Medicine [ASRM] 's recommended practices for gestational carriers. You must have already given birth and be actively parenting at least on of your own children to become a surrogate. This way, since you will have already experienced pregnancy and delivery you will have a realistic expectations for both. Your prenatal and delivery records, indicating a history of uncomplicated pregnancies and deliveries will be required. Do not worry, our acceptance team helps to track all required records down for you.
Part of being an awesome surrogate is just keeping everyone in the loop. During certain phases of your journey you will be asked to consistently check in with the agency and or your intended parents. Timely and consistent communication will mean the world to your Intended Parents and thanks to our wonderful matching methodology, you should find it easy to communicate with one another.
Reputable agencies, such as ConceiveAbilities, only work with women who are in a stable financial position. This standard is in place to assure that your lifestyle is conducive to a healthy and low stress pregnancy. Our surrogates may not be receiving welfare, using Medicaid, or supplemental security income (SSI). We do accept applicants who are receiving other forms of assistance such as subsidized daycare. Please reach out to our acceptance team with any specific questions you may have regarding this or any other qualification.
Some journeys are as easy as pie: the surrogate becomes pregnant on the first transfer attempt, everyone is thrilled and there are no bumps along the way. Sure, some journeys are like that but not all are. Sometimes there are bumps, disappointments, slowdowns, small challenges, or miscommunications along the way. A good surrogate is someone who can take it all in stride and focus on the bigger picture of the awesome thing she is doing for another family. (She will of course, have her fellow surrogates not to mention her monthly mental health support group leader and Match Manager to help her through along the way.)
Our surrogates must not have any history of criminal activity. You get it. You are going to be carrying someone's baby. They want to know that you make good choices. If you have a small or very distant infraction on your record and are unsure of whether it is disqualifying please reach out and allow us to guide you.
A surrogacy journey is work. There can be challenges. You will need a strong support system to help you along the way. If your friends and families are the type to support you at every turn, or if they already understand and respect your surrogacy decision, you’ll be all the better surrogate for having their support.
It is important to note that you do not have to be married or in a relationship to become a surrogate. Your support system could come from your family, friends, or your "tribe".
When you become a surrogate, you not only become a part of a movement, you also join a community of other women who become your surrosisters. These women are there for you throughout your journey. You share in one another's highs and lows. You support one another, meet up for support groups and it is often the case that you remain close friends long after you have delivered as a surrogate.
Surrogacy can be an exhilarating journey. Few things can compare to the feeling of being responsible for another family’s happiness. If you feel you may make a wonderful surrogate after reading this post, apply here. Or perhaps you still have questions, contact us.
Interested in how much you would earn as a ConceiveAbilities surrogate? Check out our compensation calculator.
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