You’ve probably heard about gestational surrogacy from your family and friends, or maybe you read a few articles on the topic. While you may not be completely sure whether you want to be a surrogate just yet, you are not ready to rule out the possibility.
But what if you were just the right person to be a surrogate?
In this post, inspired by our earlier post for aspiring egg donors, we cover some of the qualifications for each of our surrogates.
One of the most important qualifications for a surrogate is a healthy lifestyle and medical history. This helps ensure a healthy pregnancy for both the surrogate and the newborn. We ask that our surrogates have a BMI between 18 and 34, and have no prior history of smoking, alcoholism, or mental illness. Surrogates must also agree to participate in a medical and psychological evaluation.
We only accept surrogates between the age range of 21 and 39 years old. Surrogates must be at least 21 years old to help ensure the necessary level of emotional maturity. Surrogates can be no older than 39 years old because they are more likely to have a healthy reproductive system. Pregnant women over the age of 40 have a greater risk of developing conditions such as high blood pressure, diabetes, preeclampsia, and other possible health risks. This age range ensures our surrogates are physically prepared to carry and deliver a child.
Some surrogates believe that already having a child may exclude them from becoming a surrogate; on the contrary, this is a requirement. We believe that the best surrogates are already mothers (and in fact, this is the law in many states). You have been through the journey of pregnancy, you understand the challenges of raising a child, and now you want to use that experience to help another family.
Part of working with a surrogacy agency is communicating with the team. You will be asked to consistently check in with the agency and the intended parents , and it’s important that you respond in a timely manner. This expectation also applies to appointments with your fertility clinic. Clear communication helps build a healthy relationship with your intended parents.
A surrogacy journey can be an expensive one. A great deal of money is paid towards legal fees, insurance, agency fees, IVF fees, and other expenses. That means our surrogates must be able to afford the surrogacy process, while being independent enough to make her decision. Unfortunately, we are restricted from accepting applicants on government financial support.
Even though surrogates receive support from their doctors, fertility clinic staff, case managers, friends and family, ultimately the path of surrogacy is a choice she must make on her own. Every day of the journey is a commitment- to the child you are carrying and to the family the child belongs to.
The goal of surrogacy is to help build a family for someone else. While the experience of being a surrogate is wonderful, the true reward is to help someone achieve what might have otherwise been impossible.
Our surrogates must be shining examples of a good citizen. We only accept surrogates who have a clean criminal record.If you have an infraction on your record you are unsure of, contact us and we can advise you.
The surrogacy journey may feel stressful or even lonely at times. You’ll need a strong support system. If your friends and families are the type to support you at every turn, or if they already understand and respect your surrogacy decision, you’ll be more equipped to handle the ups and downs that surrogacy may bring.
If you’re the type to give to others, surrogacy may be your calling. For many across the world, surrogacy is the answer to their hope of building their family. With your decision, you could help bring life to a newborn and bring joy to a new family.
Surrogacy can be an exhilarating journey. With all its highs and lows, few things can compare to the feeling of being responsible for another family’s happiness. If you feel highly qualified after reading this post or still have questions, contact ConceiveAbilities.
Want to apply? Find the online application here.
All Things Conceivable is a blog dedicated to sharing the knowledge and expert opinions of the dedicated team at ConceiveAbilities, a Chicago-based egg donation and surrogacy agency.