4 Things Intended Parents Should Know About Surrogacy

Even with all the research and resources online, you may still feel confused and overwhelmed as you begin your surrogacy journey.

Here are a few things that most intended parents don’t know about surrogacy when they get started:

1) What are the different types of surrogacy?

Most people assume that there’s only one type of surrogacy, when in fact there are many. It becomes even more challenging when parents learn that some forms of surrogacy are permitted in certain states, while others are completely banned. Here are the four different types of surrogacy:

Traditional Surrogacy. The first type of surrogacy requires the surrogate to be artificially inseminated with the intended father’s sperm. Since the surrogate’s eggs are used, she is the genetic mother of the child to whom she gives birth. As you can imagine, this is very complicated both emotionally and legally, and a major reason why Traditional Surrogacy is becoming widely phased out.

Gestational Surrogacy. Gestational surrogacy is a more modern approach to surrogacy and the method which most agencies use today. In gestational surrogacy, In-Vitro Fertilization (IVF) technology allows doctors to fertilize eggs from the intended mother using sperm from the intended father. The sperm and eggs can also be supplied by donors. The fertilized eggs are then transferred to the surrogate’s uterus, which means she is not biologically linked to the baby and is strictly the carrier. Note: This is the only kind of surrogacy that is done at ConceiveAbilities.

Altruistic Surrogacy. In an altruistic surrogacy arrangement, surrogates are not compensated for their time, risk or effort. Altruistic Surrogacy can apply to both traditional surrogacy or gestational surrogacy.This form of surrogacy is the only legal type in certain countries such as Australia and Canada.

Independent Surrogacy. Usually independent surrogates are women who offer surrogacy services without enlisting the help of an agency. This type of arrangement is among the riskiest due to the lack of screenings for protection.

2) When is surrogacy recommended?

Many people assume that due to the significant financial commitment, surrogacy is only used by the very wealthy. However, the truth is that surrogacy can be used by any parent, as long as they conduct the proper research, have a sound background, and are determined to start their family.

Same-sex couples are biologically incapable of producing offspring, but through surrogacy, their dream can be fully realized. Not only can they have a child, but they can have a genetic connection to their offspring.

The same goes for families affected by infertility. Some people choose surrogacy due to a health condition preventing them from carrying a pregnancy, or have previously had a complicated, high-risk pregnancy. After miscarriages and other setbacks, families can use surrogacy to start their family in a way they weren’t able to in the past. In cultures such as China or Israel, preserving the bloodline is a family tradition. Though some opt for adoption, many parents choose surrogacy because it allows them to maintain a genetic link to their children.

3) Who will our surrogate be?

At ConceiveAbilities, we only work with the top surrogates. We look for women who are already mothers and exhibit a strong sense of altruism and responsibility. Their physical and psychological health are screened to ensure the utmost suitability for carrying someone else’s child. We want to protect the most important person to your family, your own child, to someone we trust ourselves. At the end of the whole journey, you may even find your surrogate has become a lifelong friend.

Make sure you read our specific requirements for our gestational carriers to understand how selective we are when it comes to helping you create your family.

4) Where do I start the surrogacy journey?

You’ve already begun! The first step of the surrogacy journey is conducting thorough research. Read articles online, ask your friends and family, and even check out a few books at the library.

Once you have a better understanding of the surrogacy process and you’ve discussed the prospect with your family, friends, or partner, the next steps are to make sure you’re aware of your state’s laws surrounding surrogacy, and the fees and costs involved. Staying aware of your finances will help make the process more comfortable.

When you’re ready to speak to a professional regarding the next step, it’s time to submit an application. Head to the registration page to begin your search for a surrogate and to receive more information about the next phase.

Additional Resources

Surrogacy is a big decision, and every piece of information will help you feel more comfortable with the process. This post is designed as an early starting point for any couple looking to better understand the surrogacy journey, or ready to start their own.

If you have questions, be sure to reach out to our staff.

If you’re a parent interested in what surrogacy can do for you, check out some similar blog posts, such as 4 Reasons Why You Should Use an Agency for Surrogacy and The Pros and Cons of Surrogacy for Intended Parents.

And don’t forget to keep reading the ConceiveAbilities Blog.