There are many steps to becoming a surrogate mother in our surrogate program. They may vary slightly based on location, physician and needs of the surrogate mother and intended parents, but we're providing a general framework of what to expect as a surrogate mother. And remember, we will be there with you each step of the way to make becoming a surrogate mother as easy as possible.
Watch our video about the surrogacy process.
Begin by filling out the online surrogate mother application. This application asks about your lifestyle, pregnancy, medical and work history. It is crucial that you complete the application thoroughly and honestly so that we can get to know you and match you with appropriate intended parents.
If your application is accepted, you will receive a call from our surrogacy coordinator who will gather more information about you and your family.
Once you are accepted into our ConceiveAbilities family, we discuss information about possible Intended Parents as we build your custom match. This tailored approach is what we call our Matching MattersTM process – and it's the reason the match is right on the first introduction more than 95 percent of the time. Our approach is based on aligned values as well as personal, medical and psychological criteria. When everyone feels right with the selection, we arrange a match meeting to discuss all expectations during your surrogacy engagement. This is one of the most important and reaffirming steps in the journey together – establishing an incredible connection between you as the surrogate and your hopeful intended parents.
You will be meeting at the IVF clinic with the intended parents' physician, who will speak with you in detail and perform a surrogacy information assessment. The work up varies from clinic to clinic but will often include:
Vaginal ultrasound – a probe is inserted into the vagina enabling the technician to look at your uterus for polyps, scar tissue and lining thickness
Physical and pap smear
Hysteroscopy – a procedure where a small camera is placed in the uterus to look at the uterine cavity
The IVF nurse will give you full instructions and details about the surrogate medications needed, the medical protocol, any restrictions, and expectations during the surrogate mother process. In preparation for your uterus to receive embryos created by the couple:
You will most likely be asked to take estrogen and progesterone in either patch, pill, suppository or injection form. You may also be asked to take a birth control pill to regulate and synch your menstrual cycle with the intended mom or egg donor.
You will have regular blood draws and ultrasounds to monitor the progress of the cycle.
This pregnancy may be different from your own pregnancies in that it is conceived via In Vitro Fertilization and requires a little more early attention.
You may be asked to have your blood drawn, ultrasounds or other procedures far more regularly than with “natural” pregnancies.
There is a possibility of multiples that may require additional office visits, bed rest or other monitoring.
This pregnancy is shared with the loving intended parents, and therefore requires ongoing communication about the developing fetus, your health status, needs for support, or other matters.
You will be participating in surrogate mother support groups and events that are offered in person and on-line to assure all of your questions are answered and that you have support from other surrogate moms.